Some advice to anyone who may go to Towards Healing (Main Forum)

by Iris of Oz, Australia, Tuesday, February 22, 2011, 15:06 (817 days ago) @ Roy

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Roy, you posted:

“In a Deed of Release dated 7 February 2008, the Salesians of Don Bosco (a Catholic religious order) paid a settlement to a former student who was a boarder at “Rupertswood” Salesian College, Sunbury, Victoria, in 1982-83. The deed of release states that the ex-student has alleged that he was sexually abused by Fr Francis de Dood and Father Frank Klep…

…liable for the loss and damage claimed. However, the deed says, “in order to avoid the cost, expense and inconvenience of litigation”, the Salesians and the ex-student have agreed to settle the claim on payment of a lump sum.

Hi Roy, well evidently the Salesians paid this guy some comp., purely out of the goodness of their not very blessed little hearts, so that the victim would not have to endure the psych trauma and expense of a court case!

Classic case of ‘pay him out to shut him up - so that the details never come out after a court case, which could diminish the rep. of our religious order’

De Dood and Klep both sound like Dutch names. I think you said de Dood was timid at school. Dutch Australian kids of that age often came from very authoritarian backgrounds and carried psych. scars from that. [Not that this diminishes the above crimes in any way.] It could be that de Dood became a paedophile because he ‘just didn’t know any other way’, due to the sort of example he had set before him in his school, from the taint within the teachers. His parents were likely remote from him and he may have been beaten by his father and so felt that conventional masculinity was just too scary to adopt. He may have seen his mother beaten and his siblings, including sisters.

The Dutch Australian principal of our parish school (1995) suggested to my husband that he beat me up regularly, ‘so that I would never talk back, when being verbally disciplined.’ I had never even met the guy at that stage and never did. He apparently used to deliver ‘woman discipline’ over the telephone, certainly he tried it with me – the parish priest later told my husband that this was done with the priest’s approval and that ‘he had never met a woman who was not a lunatic’. Both principal and priest were, and are, raging queens and of course were best friends in 95.

Congrats on helping to nail that guy, Roy.